One Day by David Nicholls
It’s impossible for me to avoid a “When Harry Met Sally” comparison when reviewing “One Day”. This, too, is a story of two people meeting, connecting. Becoming friends, then not friends, then more than friends, then not…the ebbs and flows of Emma and Dexter knowing one another for decades.
We get to know Emma and Dexter far better than we do Harry and Sally, though. Mostly because this is a novel and that was a movie, but also, I think, because we learn more about them as they seek to establish who they are and what they will do with their lives. We get more of their youth, of their individual selves, instead of just the moments they are together.
The premise of “One Day” is to take a day, the same day, out of each year of Emma and Dexter’s lives and use it as a snapshot of where they stand in their lives. (July 15th – I kept wondering what the significance of that day was to the author.)

I am an easy target for that type of thing, and it didn’t hurt that the time frame of the book was one that was a close match to my life. As said before, I think the strongest part of the book was the beginning, where the author establishes Dexter and Emma on the day they graduate from college and start to realize that the rest of their lives is ahead of them. Some of the descriptions of that time of life, that college feeling, were particularly well done.
She comes from a modest Yorkshire background, is left-wing, sexually reticent when sober (but she is not always sober), had a double first in English and History from Edinburgh University, but then spent her early twenties working unrewardingly, first in fringe left-wing theatre, then in a restaurant.
He comes from a classy family, is handsome, spoilt, easy-going, unintellectual, narcissistic, considers the world his oyster, and is bedding lots of women. It is hard to see how they see in each other enough to have a long-lasting relationship. Perhaps neither of them want a permanent commitment – he because he likes to flit, she because she is afraid of getting hurt. Emma is under no illusions about Dexter (he makes no secrets about his affaires), and he has one or two insights about her (but not many).
By the time he is in his late twenties, Dexter is in tawdry television programmes and has become a minor celebrity; he has gone to seed and is an alcoholic. Emma at last has a decent job teaching and has become more confident, sexually too. But they phone each other most days, though Emma has another live-in boy friend (a rather pathetic stand-up comic!) and Dexter is as promiscuous as ever.
Then at one stage she is so repelled by what he has become that she breaks off contact for a few years (and about time, too, the reader thinks!). He drifts downwards, from failure to failure, rather rapidly. She drifts upwards, slowly but perceptibly, with a success to show at last. If only ….
After two or three unsatisfactory relationships, she meets him again. Much has changed for him in the interval (it would be a spoiler if I described it), and the years have had an effect on her, too (ditto). It is a touching chapter. From here on onwards I really must not say any more about the ups and downs that are to follow; but what had been a fairly light-hearted read before becomes increasingly involving. If one has written off Dexter before as a jerk, one begins to think better even of him, at least from time to time.
There is a superb passage – rather a key passage for the book – in which Emma reflects on the difference between being in one’s turbulent early twenties and in one’s calmer late thirties.
The chapters are snapshots of what happens on the same day in successive years, beginning in 1988. There can be quite a lot of development between one year and the next, and this is an ingenious device inviting the reader to fill in the interval for him- or herself. It also charts the changes in popular culture and, to a lesser extent, in politics from year to year. That’s also very well and unobtrusively done. And Nicholls has an excellent ear for dialogue, an excellent eye for settings, and brings every character (there are great many more than Em and Dex) marvellously to life.
The ups and downs of each of their lives provide interesting contrast and as a reader, I went back and forth on whether I wanted these two people to get together or not. I gnashed my teeth when I felt they were making terrible choices, or when they were making choices that would have made all the difference if only they knew what the other was thinking.
One day, one moment, can make all the difference in a person’s life…or in this case, two people’s lives. This story of Emma and Dexter is an enjoyable and touching one…and in the end, the reader comes away feeling s/he experienced far more than just numerous July 15ths with them.
One Day; Nicholls, David; Hodder and Stoughton; Hachette Book Group; Rs. 295

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